DS climbed up two flights of stairs in grandpa’s home…and he hasn’t stopped repeating the feat since! I am so proud of him.
A couple of weeks ago, he went on a nursing strike and has not returned to direct latching but has demonstrated a clear preference for the bottle and even more so, for his solids meals. It was a tough time for me, as I looked up and applied every single tip and recommendation I found on kellymom and the La Leche League International websites.
Finally on Friday, we went to see a lactation consultant who observed DS for an hour and surmised that nine months old being a milestone in itself, it would appear he has discovered a whole new world out there such that nursing is no longer attractive because it requires him to stay still (and he won’t!!)
Oh well. So I am down to exclusive pumping, as I still want to try and achieve my target of providing him milk till he is 12 months old. It was also a major milestone for me as a mother, to cherish the very last time he nursed as a memory of our nursing relationship and a marker of his first step towards realizing his independence as a separate individual.
DD went down the curvy playground slide on her own. And the swings. Previously she always wanted me or DH to go with her as I think she felt the height was daunting. This weekend, she totally surprised us when she climbed up all on her own, and slid down laughing gleefully all the way, and repeating it for another four times before it was time to go home. She refused the kiddy swing and wanted to go on the regular adult ones instead. On her own. When previously she would have nothing whatsoever to do with the swings.
This week was the second week that I left her on her own for her Cradle Roll Sunday School class. She didn’t even blink when I said bye and that I’d be just outside if she wanted to look for me. Me and my indecisive hanging around…the teacher was probably thinking, “Go, already!” Talk about the mommy being the one with the separation anxiety!
So many memorable milestones in a week. All that change, it’s all we can do to try and keep up, give them roots and then watch them fly…
Do this craft if…
…for sheer fun and laughter, peace and joy; you’re curious to find out what your toddler’s level of patience is.
…you’re totally in full blown thrill-seeking mode to find out what your level of patience with your toddler’s level of patience is.
You have been forewarned. (!!!) 😉
You will need: Scissors, old magazines, artblock sheet, crayons, colour pencils, glue.
Cut several tiny squares of different coloured paper from your old magazines. I asked DD what colours she would like and she helped me pick up the pieces and put into a box as I cut them. Set aside.
Draw a picture of anything you fancy. I started by drawing a house and a path and windows, then a pond, DD wanted a mama and papa duck, I added some flowers and a tree, she asked for a bird and we agreed a sun would be nice. Oh and an itsy-bitsy spider climbing up, please! 😀
Have your toddler colour the picture as she pleases. Apply glue on the various parts that you want to collage. Let the fun begin!
It’s interesting the things you find out from a simple collage exercise. For instance, I learnt today that DD hated having glue and paper stuck to her fingers. The more she tried to get them off, the more pieces got stuck, because her fingers had glue from the artblock sheet where she had started sticking the first few squares. She got so irritated to the point of tears and pleas for mommy to help get it off. Wow. Never saw such a reaction ever. In the end, we washed the glue and papers off her hands and she was happy just to pick up the colours I called out and let me be the one to get my hands dirty doing the pasting.
I also learnt that it’s probably quite a massive expectation to have a 27 month old try to complete a collage with this level of complexity patiently. And that I still have a lot more to go in developing patience with my child, especially when she lost interest and started freaking out over the mess on her fingers. As much as it would have been a great idea for combining different art elements, mediums and techniques, it would probably be better to do something like this at a later juncture. [Hopefully she would have gotten over the whole ‘glue-stuck-to-fingers-and-papers-stuck-to-glue’ episode by then.]
Oh well. For what it’s worth, here’s the finished product. DH says it turned out pretty good, although the perfectionist in me is itching to finish it but for now, that’s as much as DD will have to do with it. 🙂
DD has always had a gentle and slightly shy disposition when playing with other children. In a roomful of toys, if the one she wants is taken by another child, she will usually go look for something else peaceably. Unless the other child happens to be her cousin. Then familiarity is the differentiating factor and they fight like any normal toddlers would over toys.
Previously, her reaction would be to run to an adult to mediate and help retrieve a toy that had been snatched out of her hands. Lately, she has been doing a lot more reactive shoving back, when her cousin pushes her or tries to wrestle a toy away.
I will be honest here. Although on one hand, we teach her to play nicely and come to us for help, in less than a year’s time when she starts attending preschool, I also want her to be able to within reasonable limits, defend her own interests amongst other children. So nowadays if she doesn’t call for help, I try to observe from the sidelines how she manages the situation, and I don’t step in unless things are getting out of hand between the kids. This is a big internal struggle for me, because as a parent, I just want to take the immediate short route of jumping in to save my kid from the other one who isn’t playing nicely!
The upside is she is learning to look out for herself. Learning to recognise and discern situations where it’s cool if she doesn’t get the toy or object she wants, and situations where it matters enough to stand her ground and defend herself. The downside is, DS is on the receiving end of some of those shove times when his curiosity gets the better of him and his sister is not amused. Throw in the fact that developmentally, DS at this point is still trying to get his land legs around manoeuvering and navigating on knees and unsteady feet…I am kept very busy!! [She is gentle 95% of the time, it’s the 5% I need to watch out for. But yes I know this is already a very fantastic ratio].
I guess this brings DH and me to the next level of complexity in parenting, to teach her it’s needful to play gently and dispense grace with younger kids like her baby brother, but also to expose her to “playground rules” so that she can learn to discern the point at which playing nicely is just not going to work anymore, how to manage a sticky situation on her own, and when’s the threshold to start escalating to an adult for help.
For her, learning independence. For us, learning the tricky balance between over-protection and exposing our child in incremental measures to the challenges of the big big world. I wonder if our parents ever thought so hard about this as I am now. Phew!
International Museum Day ’09 Open House Day is on 31 May 2009, this coming Sunday. A total of 13 locations are offering free admission on this day.
- Asian Civilisations Museum
- Malay Heritage Centre
- Memories at Old Ford Factory
- National Museum of Singapore
- Peranakan Museum
- red dot museum
- Reflections at Bukit Chandu
- Republic of Singapore Air Force Museum
- Singapore Art Museum
- Singapore Philatelic Museum
- 8Q sam
- Marina Barrage (actually I think this one has always had free admission…)
- NEWater Vistor Centre (I didn’t know that this counted as a museum but certainly check it out if you’d like to find out how your toilet water gets recycled into your drinking water… 😉 )
Apart from the Open House, there are also some activities for kids like the “See, Touch, Play!” exhibition at National Museum of Singapore which is part of its Children’s Season from 23 May to 7 June.
I’ve missed the 24 May Family Carnival, but would be certainly trying to see if we can catch the Play! art installation where kids can get an opportunity to bend “trees” and assemble foam “bushes”.
The Asian Civilisations Museum is having an Oriental Extravaganza on 30 and 31 May. It’s free admission on both days and kids can have a chance at making their very own paper lanterns, or try their hands at Chinese calligraphy, martial arts and dance.
The NUS Museum is having a Doodle Fun! workshop [hm, at this point while typing, I just had to pause to question why all the event names have exclamation marks…it almost seems as if it’s being shouted out…LOL] for parents and children. Click will show participants how random squiggling can be turned into a piece of art, and teach the basics of “collaboration doodling” to create a joint artwork with your child. I think this one costs $15 per adult and child but the activities at the National Museum and ACM are free.
Click here to get to the Singapore National Heritage Board website from which there are a whole lot more links to explore and find out more.
We’re certainly going to be checking some of the museums out (ha, no prizes for guessing which ones…) and definitely making the most of the Open House Day on Sunday. 🙂
We had quite a bit of a laugh baking this 🙂
This recipe has been in the pipeline for a while as we’ve had much too packed a schedule over the past few weekends to find the time for grocery shopping to stock up the baking supplies. But finally, when we got round to hunting down the ingredients…
The recipe called for Red Leicester cheese. Being my usual lazy self, I searched round the NTUCs and Shop n Saves around my office and our housing estate…but I guess at the end of the day, to find angmoh ingredients, you really need to go to the more “angmoh-fied” supermarkets…and so we finally found it in Parkway Parade‘s Cold Storage. But in a bid to get the freshest cheese, we reached in the back of the section and picked out what we thought to be one with a later expiry date. When we got home, we read the label and it said Red Cheddar!! Turns out the packaging and colouring looked pretty much similar, so we never noticed the labelling difference 😉
Then we couldn’t find our fancy metal cheese grater from Muji that our friends had given to us when we set up our first home. So we ended up using the plastic grater (you know the kind that our mums use for grating the ingredients for popiah or achar…) Yeah. So much for wanting to emulate Jamie Oliver….LOL!!
Anyways, here is the finished product!
I’m quite pleased with how it turned out although I have to say the bread is very densely packed and I think it’s because it contains both cheese and potato. DD seemed to love every bit of it though I found one slice to be already really filling after I’d had my cup of milk and oatmeal. A common challenge I face is with respect to the timing and temperature instructions on recipes. I find that I always have to guesstimate downwards a lower duration and lower temperature, and watch the baking process like a hawk, else I’d risk getting a TOTALLY VERY brown result. Sigh, the things we do… 🙂
2 cups self raising flour
1 tsp salt
1/2 tsp mustard powder ( I didn’t have this so just omitted it)
125g Red Leicester cheese (grated)
175g potatoes, cooked and mashed
1 tbsp oil
1. Lightly grease a baking tray (cookie sheet).
2. Sieve the flour, salt, and mustard powder into a mixing bowl.
3. Reserve 2 tbsp of the grated cheese and stir the rest into the bowl with the cooked and mashed potatoes.
4. Pour in the water and the oil, and stir all the ingredients together (the mixture will be wet at this stage). Mix them to make a soft dough.
5. Turn out the dough onto a floured surface and shape it into a 20cm/8 inch round.
6. Place the round on the baking tray and mark it into 4 portions with a knife, without cutting through. Sprinkle with the reserved cheese.
7. Bake in a preheated oven, 220 deg C / 425 deg F / Gas Mark 7 for about 25-30 minutes. (Here’s where I guesstimated it down to approximately 210 deg C for 22 mins)
8. Transfer the bread to a wire rack and leave to cool.
When your daughter stops in the midst of play to run over on an impulse and give her brother a hug and kiss.
When your son reaches out and grabs a handful of his sister’s hair, but she doesn’t complain because she understands that he’s still learning to be gentle.
When the sister hands her baby brother a book so that he will also have one when she takes one from the shelf to read.
When the brother chases his irritated sister all around the room just so he can have whatever is in her hand, not what she hands to him as alternatives.
When your son’s face lights up in excitement to see his sister at his cot to give him a morning cuddle.
When you rush into the room at night to the sounds of screams and cries, and find your daughter standing at the foot of your bed, sobbing, because she wanted to call and tell you that baby brother woke up crying, and couldn’t find you.
When you find your daughter teaching her little brother how to shake a rattle and passes it to him and you watch him then shake it and release it back to her, and they keep passing it back and forth to share the toy.
When your son claps his hands because his sister has successfully put together her new jigsaw puzzle.
When you hear your daughter trying to calm her upset brother in the carseat by singing all the Sunday School songs and nursery rhymes she knows.
When it works, and your son responds and stops crying, to smile and clap his hands to his sister’s singing.
When one baby-talks to the other, and they both burst out in peals of laughter…and you have no idea what it was all about because it’s just a special joke between siblings… 🙂