Mommy Musings: Obedience and Honour
In the second Mommy Musings post, we looked at what the Bible instructs on parents’ responsibilities towards their children. This week, we’ll look at what the Bible says on the responsibilities of children.
Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. “Honour your father and mother”, which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth” – Ephesians 6:1-3
There are two key words in that passage – “obey” and “honour”.
What’s the difference between the two?
I’ve extracted a few points from Gary and Marie Ezzo’s Growing Kids God’s Way text that DH and I found useful in defining the difference between obedience, submission and honour. I hope you find it useful too! 🙂
- Whilst obedience is the starting point that is needed to help shape a child’s behaviour and developing belief system, it is not an end in itself.
- In time, as a child grows, he should exchange obedience for submission.
- Submission to parents means doing what is right out of devotion to the parents, not out of fear of reproof. This attitude comes when a child begins to accept God as his ultimate authority. He then obeys to please God, which includes submitting to his parents’ headship.
- After a child marries, obedience and submission take their leave and the only thing required of him is to honour his parents, i.e. to accord them a deep respect that is given with love. A love that is based on time, knowledge, experience and appreciation for all that one’s parents have done for them and with them.
What a wonderful goal to work towards and look forward to in our relationship with our children! That hopefully in time to come, they would seek to honour out of love and devotion, not purely out of social duty.
We know though, that obedience is not a natural outpouring or an automatic response from children! How do we, as parents of young children, motivate them towards obedience and ultimately honouring?
Stay tuned… 🙂