Parenting with purpose
“If you don’t care where you are going, any road will take you there.”
I read this in a book and am not sure who came up with the adage, but it certainly holds truth for bringing up children.
Most children will grow up, find a job, be reasonably physically able to get around – basically, get to adulthood by whichever path. However, I believe there is a large majority of parents who recognise the importance of raising children by design, not by default.
And most of us would strive within the best of our ability to make sure our children start out on the best foot forward in education, healthcare and social development so they can attain their fullest potential, and get “there” by the straight route that fixes their eye on the finish line. Not one that winds in bends and distractions and sends the child into a few hard places before potentially reaching the “there” a little worse for wear.
As Christian parents, we are given an even more serious mandate by God in Deuteronomy 6:5-9. Above and beyond the equipping of life skills, the fundamental thing God holds parents accountable for is equipping their children for spiritual maturity. We need to actively drive the process of discipling, teaching and imparting His word to our children.
It’s reminded me of two things:-
- The equal, or rather greater 😉 , importance of a disciplined and structured approach to our children’s spiritual education and growth.
- That this roadmap for their spiritual growth should be the basis from which all other plans should be built, it’s not just a separate silo-ed one alongside others.
And because God has placed the primary responsibility on our shoulders (not the Sunday School teachers, not the pastor, relatives, etc) , we need to ask ourselves:-
- In our own spiritual walk, have we prepared our own hearts first, so that we are effectively equipped and qualified to disciple our children?
- Have we as a couple, prayerfully considered, defined and agreed on specific goals for spiritual development we want to work towards for each key stage of our children’s lives from ages 2-5, 6-12 and 13-18?
To me, this has been a good call for some serious planning and there’s no time like the present to start. 🙂